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Article about last night a speed date:

Lo and behold the three of them now have 6 matche… Zero matches at speed dating. My friends dragged me to a speed dating event last night, I didn’t want to go but they wore me down.

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Lo and behold the three of them now have 6 matches each and I’ve came away from the night with a record number of zero matches. Nothing. This is precisely the reason I didn’t want to go, I knew this would happen and I knew it would make me feel terrible but here we are😪 To make matters worse the lady running the event last night literally said “oh don’t worry, no one ever gets no matches at all” 🙄 I’m just posting here to have a little rant really so I don’t ruin how excited my friends are! Time to have some wine and go back to online dating where I can spread my rejection at the hands of men out over a longer period of time 😂 I’ve only been speed dating once a very long time ago… I only got a match if I’d said I liked the guy & he liked me. I initially ticked a couple of guys… then later went back into the portal and just selected them all. Needless to say I got way more matches by ticking everyone! I guess if it’s a case that no one liked you (rather than no match), it could be because you didn’t really want to go. If I’d been dragged out anywhere I wouldn’t come across in the best way! I don’t think no one liked you, they probably just sensed you didn’t want to be there. Your body language and your whole vibe would have been off even if you were trying to hide it. Try not to take it to heart. I got no matches too the only time I went speed dating years ago. I was quite fussy about who I picked though – probably only a couple but they didn’t pick me back. You get more matches the more you pick. Sorry it was disappointing! But my best friend who I dragged there against her will met her husband that night. So you never know. Are you overweight? Not any judgement but based on experience and reality dating shows men pick by looks ( stereotypical ones too) all night long. I actually don’t think that men’s opinions matter very much. I know it’s hard if you’re single and want to meet someone to think like that. When I went speed dating I ticked everyone because I thought that anyone who had had the courage to turn up to such a thing and put themselves out there deserved a tick. Caused a few issues afterwards though. How many people did you tick op? @xopenguinxo Ah that happened to me- my one and only speed dating event, I got drunk on all the free booze beforehand, which I’m sure impressed! Don’t worry- you will laugh about it in a few months time. Would you have wanted to match with any of the people there? Good point by a pp. How many did you select? Mumsnet Weekly Hot Threads. Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox! Log in to update your newsletter preferences. Mumsnet Weekly Hot Threads. Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox! Log in to update your newsletter preferences. Maybe you’re right about sensing I didn’t want to be there. Although I really did try and admittedly, actually started to enjoy myself a little once I’d had a drink and the nerves settled down! I am overweight which probably doesn’t help. I’m a size 18 (work in progress!), this is the main reason I was reluctant to go. My friends are all size 10 and stunning so I was never going to stand out or be anyone’s preference I guess 😅 I did quite like 2 of the men I chatted with and the other 4 i ticked had potential, conversation seemed to flow, similar interests etc… I don’t know If any of the 4 I didn’t tick ticked me as you only find out about matches but the event leaders “oh this NEVER happens” does nothing to boost self esteem 😂😂 Sorry, should have said I ticked 6 out of 10! Like you, i didn’t match with any one, when I went speed dating. but that was because I was bring too picky. Now, I have a low threshold to match everyone.. then there more chance for a overall match. Life is too short to worry about size. might be worth working on your self first before dating. I went to one of those about 30 years ago – same happened to me. I have never been attractive. Of the two friends I went with, one, v. conventionally attractive, got matches from everyone she had ticked. The other got a couple of matches. Absolutely nothing came from my friends’ matches, though. 10 people’s nothing I know it’s hard but try not to worry think of it like online dating how many people do you swipe through before swiping right on one that you think may be of interest Mir there’d been like 100 men there I’d be worrying but 10 don’t stress yourself x. The whole process sounds so contrived and fake. just like the worst type of job interview you can think of. One of the many reasons why I want nothing to do with online dating or speed dating. honestly do you really want to date the type of men that go speed dating? you didn’t want to go in the first place so don’t take it to heart. I don’t think it is unusual to have no matches. Those who do seem to tick all the boxes to hedge their bets, so to speak. I haven’t done it but a couple of friends have. Nothing came of their matches either. I’ve heard of more success with OLD. Don’t think any more on it, OP! I wouldn’t put too much energy into this. So you know that at least 6 out of only 10 random men didn’t pick you. 6 men in this entire universe. They don’t know you, they probably weren’t that great anyway. Most of the time, nothing really comes out of speed dating. Please don’t let 6 random men knock your self-esteem. How many men actually showed up? I did some research into speed dating and singles events with a friend who wanted to set up a side business organising it – she decided not to as getting men to take part appears to be increasingly difficult. Basically, it seems that with modern dating being so hurried in terms of deciding if there is some attraction to work with, most women only tick the handful of guys who give them the fanny flutters straight away, and those guys leave with several phone numbers whilst most guys leave with none and don’t return. Meanwhile, half the women leave disappointed too since they all wanted to match the same handful of men. You aren’t alone based on what we read OP! Modern dating certainly isn’t for me. I need a while to work out if I truly fancy somebody, then a degree of trust and emotional intimacy to get into bed with them built over a time frame that ‘the rules of the game’ don’t seem to support.

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