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Some of us outgrew friendships—or worse—found ourselves on opposite sides of important human rights issues. So here we are, in our thirties, feeling lonely and slightly embarrassed. What do we do now?

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6 Ways to Make Friends and Build Community in Your 30s. Finding new friends in your 30s is hard. If it feels like most people have a ‘no new friends’ policy, that’s because they do. But also, we may just be out-of-practice. Making friends is a use-it-or-lose-it skill that many of us never expected to have to pull off the shelf again. But then life happened, friends moved away and group chats gradually went silent. Some of us outgrew friendships—or worse—found ourselves on opposite sides of important human rights issues. So here we are, in our 30s, feeling lonely and slightly embarrassed. What do we do now? If this describes you, you are not alone. Here are six steps I’m also following to make friends and build community in my thirties. 1. Take yourself on solo dates. By now, you’ve complained to your sibling, significant other, and childhood best friend back home, that you feel lonely. It’s time to put a plan into action. Step one is leaving your apartment or house and putting yourself out there. Because no one will find you in your living room. Let’s see what your town or city has to offer. Summer and Fall are great times to check out your local library, festivals, fairs, farmers markets and seasonal events designed to bring folks together. You can also check the “being a better community member” box by supporting librarians, makers, growers, nonprofits and small owned businesses. At the same time, you’re acclimating yourself to going to events on your own. The goal isn’t to meet someone new necessarily but to find the third places you love and enjoy (Target doesn’t count) where you might come across other like-minded people. Think of it as practice. That isn’t always easy, especially if you’ve spent the past couple of years at home raising small children or focused on work and rent, or trying to survive a global pandemic. That’s everyone. But what about those of us who live in small towns? I’ve lived in small towns and large cities across the U.S. I’ve made a habit of taking myself on solo dates but they looked very different depending on where I was living. In small towns, my third places were church, run club, the bookstore, bible studies in private homes, the coffee shops that played Jesus music and the lone cafe that didn’t. I also went to every local parade and no-headliner concert because everyone did. I went to every festival whether the focus was boll weevils, apple butter, or rubber duck racing. Yep. I occasionally drove 1-3 hrs to a nearby city to visit a real bookstore and to attend bigger-name concerts. So I get it, solo date options are very limited if you live in a small town. It’s hard to get out alone in public and when you do, you run into half the office, or small group. And knowing lots of people isn’t the same as having lots of friends. Now that I live in a mid-sized city, there are museums, art galleries and book talks at my local library and pub. There are after-hours events at the botanical gardens, and outdoor concerts and guided urban hikes. There are so many options and no one knows my name. It’s liberating but can also feel incredibly lonely, you know? Whether you live in a big city or small town, the point is to get outside and socialize. That could mean checking out the local football game or bluegrass event even if you don’t care about either. It’s something to do–especially if it’s free. If you already take advantage of low cost and no cost events in your area, that’s great! If not, try going to an event on your own and talking to someone new. If the idea of going to an event on your own seems terrifying, go with someone you know (like your partner) and take 10 minutes to walk around on your own before meeting back up with them. If that is still a definite ‘hell no’, sign up for an online event and turn your camera on. 2 . Volunteer locally. @luvlainey11 continuing my rant against the annoying chroniclly online “leftists” that dont actually do anything to help. your constant obsession with “call outs” posts do not help people in need, go do actual community building in the real world #leftist #lgbtq #anticapitalism #mutualaid ♬ original sound – luvlainey. Now that you’re gotten some practice going to local events on your own, it’s time to try an activity that just might lead to a new friendship and that will also make you a better community member—volunteering. Check out http://www.volunteermatch.org or Google ‘volunteer options near me’ and set up a weekly or biweekly reminder in your calendar. Don’t schedule over it. Small Towns. Live in a small town with fewer options? Start with a local faith organization. Oftentimes in small towns, they manage food pantries, gently-used clothing donations, and diaper/period product banks. They also distribute free meals, offer respite-care for caregivers and provide free childcare a few times a week. Yes, many proselytize and judge others. Volunteering with a faith organization tends to work best if you already ‘look and think like them’. However, the role that faith organizations–especially Black and Brown ones—play in community care and social activism is too significant to overlook. This is especially true if you live in a small town. Start here. And yes, giving to others has reciprocal benefits. Keith from outreach doesn’t just use his Dodge Ram to deliver firewood to senior adults, he will also pick up your new couch from the ReStore across town. Cities. Live in a bigger city? The good news is there are far more volunteer options and you don’t need to know the Sermon on the Mount. Just pass a background check. Interested in the legal system? Become a court appointed special advocate for a child experiencing neglect or abuse, join other prison abolitionists and court watch, or become a child advocate for unaccompanied child migrants. You can also bail out mothers and caregivers, or support LGBTQ+ youth impacted by incarceration. Committed to fighting housing insecurity? Staff a crisis hotline for a domestic violence safe house, volunteer with a transitional housing program, redesign a website for a low-barrier shelter, or serve meals, assist with intake and help residents access social services. Want to end food apartheid? Volunteer with nonprofits that redistribute perishable food from supermarkets and restaurants to local shelters and food pantries, put in hours at a community garden or at a local food bank, flex your bilingual skills at a SNAP outreach event, or deliver groceries to income-eligible senior adults. Interested in health equity? Get certified as a translator, organize and mobilize around reproductive justice for immigrant communities, or volunteer at a federally qualified community health center. Care about the environment? Take your pick of the local conservancies, riverkeepers, and ‘friends of’. Clean up trailheads and watersheds, restore wetlands, tear up non-native plants and plant native ones. Or put your advocacy skills to work alongside marginalized Black and Brown communities most impacted by water and air pollution and the park equity gap. Help them petition local governments to stop their neighborhoods from being targeted for destruction and torn apart by endless highway construction.

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